Deep Waters
Six Days to Reconnect with the Man Beneath the Noise
November 8-13, 2026 in Nosara, Costa Rica
5 Nights. 8 Men. Deep Work.
There comes a point in a man’s life when he can no longer outrun himself.
He has spent years building. Achieving. Becoming the man he thought he was supposed to be. And he’s good at it. That’s not the problem.
The problem is the distance.
Between the life he’s constructed and the life he can feel underneath it. Between the man the world sees and the man he knows he’s capable of being. Between what he’s accomplished and what it actually costs him to keep it going.
Not because he is broken.
Because the noise got loud. And he never stopped long enough to listen.
Most men don't wake up one day in crisis.
They wake up one day and realize they've been slowly abandoning themselves for years.
The marriage still exists. The business still exists. The life still exists.
But the fire that built it has gone quiet.
Not because they're weak.
Because they've spent too long carrying everything and too little time listening to themselves.
Deep Waters is an invitation to stop. And listen. Deeply.
To spend six days in Nosara, Costa Rica — in nature, in brotherhood, in honest and often uncomfortable inner exploration.
To find what’s been waiting beneath the surface.
To reconnect with the man you are in your clearest, most grounded moments — and to build the capacity to live from that place.
Not a seminar. Not a spa. Not another thing to add to the list.
The work.
What Changes?
This retreat is not about learning more. Most of the men who come here already know enough.
What they don’t have is the time, the space, or the right container to do something with what they know.
Over the years, high-performing men develop a particular kind of mastery — the ability to keep moving, keep producing, keep holding it together no matter what’s happening inside. That capacity is real. It’s earned. And it comes at a cost that most men don’t let themselves account for.
The work here is not to tear down what you’ve built. It’s to remove what’s standing between you and what you already know.
As that happens, things shift. Decisions get sharper — not because you’ve learned a new framework, but because you’re no longer filtering everything through fear or the need to prove something. Relationships deepen. Presence grows. The performance starts to fall away, and something more solid takes its place.
The most meaningful shift is often the simplest: men stop feeling like strangers inside their own lives.
Imagine returning home with a quiet confidence that doesn't need to prove itself.
More patient with your children. More present with your partner. More decisive in your business. More trusting of your instincts. More connected to your body. More connected to your purpose.
Less reactive. Less distracted.
Less driven by the need to achieve your worth.
Not because you learned something new.
Because you remembered something you already knew.
You.
Who Is Deep Waters For?
This retreat is for the man who has done well by most measures — and knows that’s not the whole story.
He is not a beginner. He has already done real work on himself — questioned old patterns, sat in difficult conversations, had glimpses of who he is when the armor comes off. He knows the territory.
Yet somewhere between the demands of his work, his relationships, his responsibilities — he finds himself drifting back. Distracted when he could be present. Numb when he wants to feel. Running a version of himself that has stopped reflecting who he actually is.
He is no longer interested in becoming someone else.
He is interested in living more fully as himself.
Whether he is leading a company, raising a family, navigating a major transition, or simply carrying more than he lets on — he understands that the quality of everything in his life is shaped by the quality of his relationship with himself.
He values honesty over image.
Depth over performance.
Self-responsibility over explanation.
And he feels called to live from a deeper place of truth, trust, and alignment.
Most men come looking for clarity.
What they find first is relief.
Relief from carrying everything. Relief from always needing the answer. Relief from the constant pressure to perform. Relief from being the strong one.
And in that relief, something unexpected emerges:
A deeper connection to themselves.
A clearer sense of purpose.
And a renewed capacity to lead the life they've built.
This retreat is an invitation to answer that call.
The Details
Six days in Nosara, Costa Rica. Eight men only. We are intentionally keeping this group small and curated.
No back row. No hiding. No disappearing into a crowd. Every man is seen.
Two facilitators who have spent decades in this work. The full package — physical, ceremonial, relational, and integration — in a setting designed to support all of it.
What's Included
One full-day facilitated ceremonial experience (medicinal component discussed at intake)
Pre-retreat intake session with Traver & Brea
Two post-retreat integration sessions with Traver & Brea
Daily physical training and movement with Traver
Contact and relational work with Traver
Blindfolded leadership exercise and debrief
Somatic group sessions with Brea
Private somatic sessions with Brea
Individual guidance from both facilitators throughout the retreat
Three weeks of private post-retreat integration support
Luxury accommodations at Casa Melina, Nosara
All meals — fresh, locally sourced, abundant
Time in nature: ocean, jungle, open sky
What We'll Explore Together
While there are themes we return to throughout the week, the experience itself is shaped by the women who are present and what feels most important to explore together.
Our conversations often center around the questions many women find themselves carrying:
How do I trust myself more deeply?
What am I ready to let go of?
What no longer feels aligned?
What am I making harder than it needs to be?
What is asking for my attention right now?
Along the way, we'll explore the patterns, responsibilities, expectations, and roles that may have shaped your life up until this point - and whether they still fit the woman you are becoming.
We'll also spend time looking at relationships, boundaries, leadership, self-trust, and what it means to care for others without losing yourself in the process.
Some of the most meaningful insights come through conversation. Others emerge in silence, in nature, during reflection, or in the unexpected moments between sessions.
Rather than trying to force an answer, we'll create the conditions for a more honest relationship with yourself - and trust what unfolds from there.
Day 1: Arriving
Theme: Landing
Most men arrive carrying more than they realize.
The momentum of ordinary life doesn’t stop just because you got on a plane. The inbox, the unfinished conversations, the version of yourself you’ve been running — it all comes with you.
Day one is about simply landing and finding ground. Letting the pace of ordinary life begin to release its grip.
We’ll eat together, move together, and begin to establish the conditions for what’s coming.
Just an invitation to arrive — fully, honestly, without the version of yourself you left home wearing.
Day 2: The Journey
Theme: Going Where the Mind Won’t Take You
A full-day ceremonial experience, carefully held, that creates access to the parts of yourself that thinking has never been able to reach.
When life gets quiet enough, we begin to notice what has been waiting beneath the surface. Questions we’ve been avoiding. Things we’ve pushed aside. Parts of ourselves that have been patiently waiting for our attention.
This day is devoted to deep listening. Not to fix what’s broken. Not to become someone new. But to reconnect with what is already there — and what has been there all along.
You will be prepared. You will be held. And what you encounter will be yours to work with for the rest of the week — and long after.
Note: This experience includes a carefully facilitated medicinal component. Details are discussed during your intake conversation prior to registration.
Day 3: The Body Knows
Theme: Moving What Got Opened
After the depth of Day 2, this day moves.
Physical training, contact work, and relational exercises designed to ground what the ceremony opened. There is something that happens when men work hard together, push against each other, and show up physically in real time — something that no amount of sitting in a circle can replicate. We use that.
This is also a day of reconnection with yourself beneath the roles. Not through introspection, but through the body — which often knows things the mind has been too busy to notice.
Day 4: Leading Blind
Theme: How You Lead When You Can’t See
A full day built around the blindfolded leadership exercise — and the honest conversation that follows it.
Most men have never had their leadership reflected back from the inside — not as a review or a debrief, but as a live, embodied experience of how they actually move when the familiar cues are gone. How they hold uncertainty. Whether they ask for help. What they do when they can’t control the outcome.
The exercise itself is one thing. The conversation between men who have just watched each other clearly — that’s where the real work lives.
Day 5: Emodiment
Theme: Closing The Gap
By this point in the week, most men begin to recognize that the challenge has never been a lack of wisdom.
It has been learning to trust what they already know — and to bring that knowing back into a life that doesn’t always make it easy.
This day explores the space between insight and action. We’ll look honestly at where the gap lives for you — in leadership, relationship, fatherhood, friendship — and what it would actually take to live from the man you’ve been this week, on the other side of this.
Day 6: Return
Theme: Going Back Different
The retreat ends. The life doesn’t.
What matters now is not what happened in these six days. What matters is how you carry it — back into the relationships, the work, and the ordinary Tuesday morning that’s waiting for you.
Before you leave, we’ll get specific. Not a generic integration plan, but a clear-eyed look at where you’re going, what you’re committed to, and what support you’ll have to keep living from what you’ve found here.
The goal is not to leave with a longer list of things to fix. It’s to leave more solid in yourself — and trusting that enough to act from it.
Three weeks of post-retreat integration support continues after you leave, with direct access to your facilitators to anchor what emerged into the life you’re actually living.
Daily Overview
Our days are intentionally spacious. There is real structure and deep facilitation throughout the week — and there is also time to move, to be in the ocean, to sit with another man in a way you rarely get to. Some of the most important moments will happen in the spaces between the scheduled work.
Meet Us.
Between private mentorship, retreat facilitation, somatic work, leadership development, and decades of supporting individuals through meaningful life transitions, Brea and Sukhi bring a grounded and deeply human approach to this work.
Together, they create spaces that are both supportive and honest - spaces where women can slow down, reconnect with themselves, and explore what is ready to emerge.
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Co-facilitatorBrea Segger is fascinated by what happens when people stop living the life they think they should want and begin paying attention to what is actually true for them.
What began as a personal search became a decades-long exploration of growth, leadership, relationships, business, spirituality, human behavior, and the many ways we lose—and find—ourselves throughout a lifetime.
Through private mentorship, retreats, and transformational experiences, Brea works with individuals navigating growth, transition, and the often uncomfortable space between who they've been and who they're becoming. Her work is less about providing answers and more about helping people reconnect with their own inner knowing, trust themselves more deeply, and create lives that feel genuinely aligned.
Known for her thoughtful questions, grounded presence, and ability to see beneath the surface of what people present to the world, Brea creates spaces where honesty, clarity, and meaningful change can emerge naturally.
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Co-Facilitator
Sukhi Bal is a Registered Clinical Counsellor whose work blends professional training with a profound commitment to her own inner healing. Drawn to this path from an early age, she began as a peer counsellor in Grade 6 and went on to earn her BA in Psychology from UBC and her MEd in Counselling from the University of Victoria. Since 2007, she has supported clients with deep empathy, a grounded presence, and unwavering belief in each person’s innate capacity to heal.
Sukhi’s approach is rooted in the understanding that every individual makes sense within the context of their lived experience. She creates a sacred and compassionate space where clients can explore, transform, and reconnect with their authentic selves. Sukhi is the mother of three boys, and this itself has been a catalyst for profound spiritual and emotional growth, reinforcing her trust in the transformative power of inner work.
She brings specialized training in Psychedelic-Assisted Therapies and Research (CIIS), Compassionate Inquiry (Dr. Gabor Maté), and the Conscious Parenting Method™ (Dr. Shefali). Sukhi supports clients in preparation and integration for psychedelic journeys, guides them in uncovering the roots of emotional patterns, and helps them cultivate consciousness, self-compassion, and authentic freedom.
At the heart of her work is a simple truth: healing is possible, and every person holds the wisdom to transform their life.
Accommodations
& Investment
The setting for this retreat was chosen intentionally.
Located directly on Lake Cowichan and surrounded by the forests and mountains of Vancouver Island, it offers a sense of spaciousness that is increasingly difficult to find. There is room here to breathe, to slow down, and to reconnect with what matters most.
Whether you're enjoying a quiet morning by the water, sharing conversation on the private wharf, or simply taking in the beauty of the landscape around you, the environment becomes an important part of the experience itself.
Below you'll find the available accommodation options and investment details.
Private Room w/ King Bed & Ensuite Bathroom
Designed for rest, comfort, and quiet reflection, these suites offer a spacious and beautifully appointed retreat overlooking the natural beauty of Lake Cowichan.
Filled with light and intentionally simple in their design, these rooms provide a peaceful sanctuary between retreat sessions - a place to journal, rest, integrate, or simply enjoy a slower pace. Each Master Suite includes a private ensuite and additional space to settle in comfortably throughout your stay.
All meals, classes, workshops, & events included.
$5,950/USD
Shared Space w/ Double Bed & Shared Bathroom
Designed for connection without sacrificing comfort, our shared rooms feature two double beds and ample space to relax and unwind throughout your stay.
Many women are surprised by how meaningful it can be to share space with someone on a similar journey. Between sessions, the room becomes a place for quiet reflection, conversation, laughter, and rest. Thoughtfully appointed and surrounded by the beauty of the Pacific Northwest, these rooms offer a comfortable and welcoming home for the week.
All meals, classes, workshops, & events included.
$4,250/USD
There is something about water that slows us down.
This retreat is held directly on Lake Cowichan,
surrounded by the forests and mountain
s of Vancouver Island. The setting itself
becomes part of the experience.
