Deep Waters V2
Six Days to Reconnect with the Man Beneath the Noise
November 8-13, 2026 in Nosara, Costa Rica
5 Nights.
8 Men.
Deep Work.
There comes a point in a man's life when he can no longer outrun himself.
Not because everything falls apart.
The business may still be working. The marriage may still exist. Life may look fine from the outside.
But something feels off.
He's spent years building, achieving, providing, and carrying responsibility. And he's good at it. That's not the problem.
The problem is the growing distance between the life he's living and the life he knows is possible.
Most men don't wake up one day in crisis.
They wake up one day and realize they've been abandoning parts of themselves for years.
Not intentionally.
Just slowly.
One compromise at a time. One distraction at a time. One more year spent putting everyone and everything else first.
Deep Waters is an opportunity to stop long enough to notice.
To step away from the noise and spend six days in Costa Rica with a small group of men willing to tell the truth.
Not a seminar.
Not a vacation.
Not another self-improvement project.
The work.
What Happens Here.
Most of the men who come here already know enough.
They've done therapy. Read the books. Listened to the podcasts. They've spent years trying to understand themselves and make sense of their lives.
What they often haven't had is the time, space, and support to do something with what they know.
Over time, many successful men become remarkably good at carrying weight. They keep producing. Keep leading. Keep showing up.
It's an admirable skill.
It's also exhausting.
The work here isn't about becoming someone new. It's about removing some of what's gotten in the way.
As that happens, things tend to get simpler.
Decisions become clearer.
Relationships feel more honest.
The need to constantly prove yourself starts to loosen its grip.
Men stop feeling like strangers inside their own lives.
Not because they learned something new.
Because they finally started listening to what they already knew.
Who Is Deep Waters
For?
This retreat is for the man who has done well by most measures and knows that isn't the whole story.
He's not a beginner. He's done work on himself. He's read the books, listened to the podcasts, had the difficult conversations, and spent enough time looking inward to know that lasting change doesn't come from another insight alone.
And yet, somewhere between work, relationships, responsibility, and ambition, he finds himself drifting.
Not dramatically. Not all at once.
Just enough to notice that he's less present than he wants to be. Less connected. Less certain of himself than he appears.
The problem isn't that he doesn't know what matters.
The problem is that knowing and living are not the same thing.
He's no longer interested in becoming someone else. He's interested in living more fully as himself.
He values honesty over image, depth over performance, and responsibility over blame. He understands that the quality of his leadership, relationships, and life will never exceed the quality of his relationship with himself.
Most men come looking for clarity.
What they often find first is relief.
Relief from carrying everything alone. Relief from always needing the answer. Relief from the pressure to hold it all together.
And from that place, something begins to open.
Not a new version of himself.
Just a return to the man who was there all along.
Daily Overview.
We've intentionally kept the schedule spacious.
There is real work to be done during this week, and there is also time to breathe. Time to be in the ocean. Time to move your body. Time to sit with another man and have the kind of conversation that rarely happens in ordinary life.
Some of the most important moments won't happen during a workshop or exercise. They'll happen over coffee in the morning, walking back from the beach, or sitting quietly with something that finally has room to surface.
This week has structure. It also has space.
Both matter.
Day 1: Arriving
Theme: Landing
Most men show up carrying more than they realize.
The inbox is still in your pocket. The unfinished conversations are still running in the background. The version of yourself you've been operating as doesn't disappear just because you crossed a border.
Day one is simple.
Arrive.
Meet the men. Eat good food. Move your body.
Begin letting the pace of ordinary life loosen its grip.
Nothing to prove. Nothing to perform.
Just the first step into the week.
Day 2: The Journey
Theme: Going Where the Mind Won’t Take You
Most of the men who come here have spent years trying to think their way through their lives.
Sometimes that works.
Sometimes it doesn't.
There are parts of us that don't respond to analysis. Parts that wait patiently beneath the stories, explanations, and strategies we've built around them.
This day is an opportunity to step outside the mind's constant need to understand and into a different kind of conversation with yourself.
You don't need to force anything.
You don't need to perform anything.
You only need to be willing to listen.
Note: This experience includes a carefully facilitated medicinal component. Details will be discussed during your intake conversation prior to registration.
Day 3: The Body Knows
Theme: Moving What Got Opened
After the depth of Day 2, we move.
This is a day of physical activity and relational exercises designed to bring what emerged in the ceremony back into the body.
There is something that happens when men move together, challenge each other, and show up physically in real time that no amount of talking can replicate.
We use that.
Because insight alone doesn't change much.
It has to be lived.
For many men, this is where things begin to click. Not because they understand themselves more deeply, but because they stop trying to think their way through the experience.
The body has its own wisdom.
Most of us have simply stopped listening.
Day 4: Leading Blind
Theme: How You Lead When You Can’t See
Most men think they know how they lead.
This day gives them a chance to find out.
Some men try harder.
Some shut down.
Some take over.
Some finally ask for help.
The exercise is memorable.
The conversations afterward are what stay with people.
Because for the first time in a long time, you'll hear how other men experience you.
Not the version you think you're presenting.
The version that's actually showing up.
Day 5: Embodiment
Theme: Closing The Gap
By this point in the week, most men begin to see that the challenge was never a lack of awareness.
It was trust.
Trusting what they already know.
Trusting themselves enough to act on it.
Trusting that the life they're being called toward is worth the discomfort it may require.
This day is devoted to that gap - the one between insight and action, knowing and living.
We'll look honestly at where it shows up for you, what keeps it in place, and what it would take to return home and begin making different choices.
Not dramatic ones.
Real ones.
The kind that quietly change the direction of a life.
Day 6: Return
Theme: Going Back Different
The retreat ends. Your real life begins again.
The challenge was never what happened here.
The challenge is what happens when you're back in the office, back with your family, back inside the routines and responsibilities waiting for you at home.
Before you leave, we'll get clear about what comes next.
Not a grand plan.
Not a new identity.
Just a deeper commitment to living what you already know.
Because the measure of this week isn't how you feel when you leave.
It's how you live when you get home.
Three weeks of post-retreat integration support follows the retreat to help you bring what mattered here into the life that matters most.
Meet Us.
We come from different backgrounds, ask different questions, and see the world through different lenses.
That's intentional.
Traver brings decades of experience in men's work, leadership, and helping people confront the truths they've spent years avoiding.
Brea brings a deep understanding of relationships, personal transformation, self-trust, and the quieter work of learning how to live in alignment with what matters most.
Together, we create a balance of challenge and support, directness and depth, accountability and compassion.
Different approaches.
Shared values.
The same commitment to creating an experience that is honest, transformative, and grounded in real life.
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Co-Facilitator
Traver Boehm is the founder of the UNcivilized Men’s Movement and the author of Today I Rise, Man UNcivilized, and 28 Days in Darkness.
For more than a decade, he has guided thousands of men through retreats, workshops, initiations, and transformational experiences around the world. His work blends the physical, emotional, relational, and spiritual aspects of men's development into a direct, embodied approach to growth.
A former professional fighter, bodyguard, acupuncturist, and entrepreneur, Traver understands both achievement and the cost that often comes with it. He has spent a total of 77 days alone in complete darkness and has dedicated his life to helping men reconnect with themselves, their purpose, and the lives they truly want to lead.
At Deep Waters, Traver leads the physical training, relational work, leadership exercises, and integration process.
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Co-facilitatorBrea Segger is fascinated by what happens when people stop living the life they think they should want and begin paying attention to what is actually true for them.
What began as a personal search became a decades-long exploration of growth, leadership, relationships, business, spirituality, human behavior, and the many ways we lose—and find—ourselves throughout a lifetime.
Through private mentorship, retreats, and transformational experiences, Brea works with individuals navigating growth, transition, and the often uncomfortable space between who they've been and who they're becoming. Her work is less about providing answers and more about helping people reconnect with their own inner knowing, trust themselves more deeply, and create lives that feel genuinely aligned.
Known for her thoughtful questions, grounded presence, and ability to see beneath the surface of what people present to the world, Brea creates spaces where honesty, clarity, and meaningful change can emerge naturally.
The Details.
Six days in Nosara, Costa Rica. Eight men only. We are intentionally keeping this group small and curated.
No back row. No hiding. No disappearing into a crowd. Every man is seen.
Two facilitators who have spent decades in this work. The full package — physical, ceremonial, relational, and integration — in a setting designed to support all of it.
What's Included
One full-day facilitated ceremonial experience (medicinal component discussed at intake)
Pre-retreat intake session with Traver & Brea
Two post-retreat integration sessions with Traver & Brea
Daily physical training and movement with Traver
Contact and relational work with Traver
Blindfolded leadership exercise and debrief
Somatic group sessions with Brea
Private somatic sessions with Brea
Individual guidance from both facilitators throughout the retreat
Three weeks of private post-retreat integration support
Luxury accommodations at Casa Melina, Nosara
All meals — fresh, locally sourced, abundant
Time in nature: ocean, jungle, open sky
Your Place at Deep Waters.
Casa Melina sits tucked into the hills of Nosara, minutes from the Pacific and surrounded by jungle. Designed by a longtime Nosara artist and surfer, it blends genuine luxury with the kind of raw natural environment that has a way of reminding a man what actually matters. Two pools, a yoga shala, and rooms built for real rest.
You’ll eat well here. Fresh, locally sourced, prepared with care. Nourishment is part of the work.
Private Room w/ King Bed & Ensuite Bathroom.
Spacious suites overlooking the jungle. King bed, private ensuite, walk-in closet. Everything you need, nothing you don’t.
All meals, classes, workshops, & events included.
$6,950/USD
See our FAQ’s below for payment options.
Shared Room (1 Queen& 1 Double Bed) & Ensuite Bathroom.
Brand-new rooms with private ensuite bathrooms. Come with a man you trust, or let us pair you thoughtfully. The howler monkeys will wake you up at dawn. You’re welcome.
All meals, sessions, workshops, and experiences included.
All meals, classes, workshops, & events included.
$4,950/USD
See our FAQ’s below for payment options.
Why Costa Rica?
Environment matters.
Men don't change in the same rooms where they've been performing.
Distance creates perspective.
The jungle slows what the world speeds up.
The ocean has a way of stripping away what isn't real.
For six days, you step outside the machinery of your life.
No constant demands.
No endless notifications.
No expectation to be anything other than honest.
And in that space, men remember things they forgot they knew.
This Retreat Is For You If…
You've built a life that works on paper, but doesn't feel as alive as it once did.
You've done the reading, listened to the podcasts, sat in the conversations—and know that awareness alone isn't enough. You're carrying more than most people realize.
You're tired of performing strength and ready to experience it.
You know there are conversations, decisions, or truths you've been avoiding.
You want to trust yourself more than you trust other people's opinions about your life.
You're ready to stop searching for the next answer and start living what you already know.
Your Questions, Answered
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The easiest way to reach Nosara is to fly into Liberia International Airport (LIR), which is approximately 2.5–3 hours from the retreat venue.
From Liberia, we recommend Terra Tours or Nosara Happy Cab, both of which offer reliable private and shared shuttle services to Nosara.
If your flights align, you may also choose to take a short domestic flight from either Liberia (LIR) or San José (SJO) directly into Nosara. We recommend checking Sansa Airlines or Green Airways for schedules and availability.
Please know that arriving into Nosara is always and adventure - hence the "‘Pura Vida” phrase used here daily.
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Your retreat includes accommodations, all meals, workshops, group experiences, private support throughout the retreat, post-retreat integration sessions, and three weeks of private integration support following the retreat.
Travel and transportation are not included.
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A non-refundable deposit of $2,500 USD is required to reserve your space. The remaining balance is due 45 days prior to the retreat.
Flexible payment plans are available. Please reach out if you'd like to discuss options.
Payments may be made by Visa, Mastercard, ACH transfer (US), or wire transfer.
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Most women do.
While some participants attend with a friend, many arrive knowing no one. One of the gifts of an intimate retreat is how quickly meaningful connections form when people gather with a shared intention.
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We’re happy to accommodate dietary needs and preferences whenever possible.
Once registered, you'll receive a dietary information form where you can let us know about any allergies, sensitivities, restrictions, or food preferences. Our intention is for every guest to feel well nourished and cared for throughout their time at the retreat.
If you have specific questions or concerns before registering, please don't hesitate to reach out.
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Nosara is warm year-round, so we recommend packing lightweight, comfortable clothing that allows you to move, relax, and feel at ease. Think simple, casual, and easy.
During the rainy season, a light rain jacket can be helpful, but in general, you'll likely spend most of your time in breathable clothing, bare foot (or sandals), swimsuits, and comfortable layers.
If you forget something at home, don't worry. Nosara has shops where you can purchase most essentials.
Our best advice? Pack the basics, keep it simple, and come ready to settle into a slower pace.m description
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One of the most important parts of this experience is integration. In addition to your time together in Costa Rica, you'll receive post-retreat integration support, 2 follow-up sessions, and three weeks of private guidance to help bring what you've discovered into your everyday life.